The Ultimate Lube Guide – All You’ll Ever Need To Know About Getting Wet

My guess is that most adults have had shitty sexual experiences because things just didn’t get wet enough. These experiences may have been with men, women, or having fun by themselves. If things get dry down there, it just isn’t much fun. Sometimes it’s straight up painful.

Lube solves the dryness problem by making everything nice and slick. There are a ton of lubes on the market, though, so you need to know which ones are right for you. Cassie and I have different lubes for all kinds of fun. We have a lube for toys, we have a lube for anal sex, we must have about a dozen lubes for masturbation. (Not really, but close enough.)

These days, you’re most likely to find water or silicone-based lubes. There are also some crazy options that Cassie won’t use. I can’t say I blame her. Seriously, how many women actually want coconut oil in their pussies? And petroleum jelly? That has to be one of the worst ideas.

Most modern lubes work pretty well. Still, some are better than others. A little research will help you choose a personal lubricant that fits your body and intended use. It’s not like lube is expensive, but there’s no point in turning an awesome night into a blah night. If you want to have the best sex of your life (and isn’t that one of life’s major points?), then you’re going to need a good lube that reduces friction and helps you get off.

There’s More Than One Type of Lube – Know the Differences!

Let’s start with some lube basics. There are several different kinds of lube that you can buy. The most popular are made from oil, water, or silicone. There are also some organic and natural lubricants that some people prefer, especially if they have allergies or they’re vegan.

Win A FREE FLESHLIGHT - Sign up below!

Quarterly draw for email subscribers - Win a Fleshlight STU!​

Water-based Lube

Cassie and I prefer water-based lubes. You can’t really go wrong with a good water-based lube. Whether you’re enjoying some alone time or having fun with partner, these are the go-to options. I like them because I think they feel great. Cassie likes them because she’s not too keen on putting weird chemicals in her vagina, which I think is pretty understandable.

Water-based lubes are good for any occasion. You can use them for vaginal and anal sex. You can use them when jerking off. You can use them during blowjobs, although you probably want to read the ingredients before you decide whether you want to ingest lube.

For me, the best part of choosing a water-based lube is that you don’t need to worry about how it will effect condoms, toys, etc. Some lubes will damage dildos. You don’t want to ruin a nice sex toy by putting the wrong lube on it. That’s a huge waste of money.

Plus, I’ve become attached to some of our sex toys. I would feel a little sad if we had to throw one away because a frigging lube made it unreliable.

If you use condoms regularly, then water-based lubes should work well for you. Some silicone or oil lubes contain ingredients that can damage the latex used to make condoms. You may not even notice the damage, which is what makes it dangerous. You might as well not even use a condom if its full of little holes and tears.

With water-based lubes, you don’t have to worry that your condom will let any semen or other fluids through, which is a big deal if you’re not in a committed relationship or if you have an open relationship.

The only problem with water-based lubes is that they can evaporate more quickly than silicone. If you’re having an hour-long bang session, you’ll probably need to reapply lube a few times. Personally, I don’t think that’s a big deal.

To tell you the truth, I kind of like that water-based lubes force me to stop for a minute. It’s a great time to get some head or go down on your partner. Plus, it gives your dick a minute to relax so you can prolong the experience. Personally, I don’t want to come too soon. Water-based lube can, if you let it, encourage you to slow down a bit. I think that’s great.

One other thing. Water-based lubes don’t work well when you’re in water. So if you’re going to have shower or hot tub sex, this probably isn’t the best option for you unless you want to reapply every few minutes.

Still, these are the best. I choose water-based lube whenever possible.

Silicone-based Lubes

Silicone-based lubes come in at a close second. They don’t evaporate like water-based lubes. They’re really, really slick. In other words, you can fuck like a pro when you use silicon-based lubes.

They’re also great for anal. Cassie and I use water and silicone lubes during anal. It just depends on what kind of mood we’re in. Realistically, most people will prefer the feel of silicone lubes for anal sex because it will never evaporate or need re-applying, but of course the trade off is that it’s gonna be pretty uncomfortable after the fact (not easy to clean up).

There are, however, several challenges to using silicone-based lubes. These challenges suck (and not in a good way). My biggest complaints about silicone-based lube is that it:

  • Is hard to clean up
  • Can make a huge mess if it gets on your bed sheets
  • Slowly breaks down latex sex toys

So, if those sound like problems to you, silicone-based lube isn’t your first choice.

I will stand by silicone, however, when it comes to shower fucking. If you’re going anywhere near water, bring some silicone-based lube with you. It won’t break down in warm water. The properties that make it hard to clean are the same ones that make it great for shower sex.

Even though we don’t use silicone-based lubes very often, we keep a bottle on hand for when we want to get frisky in the pool, hot tub, or shower (or when I’m using my Fleshlight shower mount).

Oil-based Lubes

Cassie and I do not use oil-based lubes. There are so many things that can go wrong with them that we think it’s best to not keep them in the house. My list of complaints could go on and on. These lubes are:

  • REALLY hard to clean up (think about trying to wipe petroleum jelly off your dick. Now imagine cleaning it off your sheets.)
  • Not healthy for interior bits. Trust me on this, your lady friend will not be happy if you put oil-based lube in her.
  • Dangerous for people worried about pregnancy and STDs. They make it easy for condoms to slip off during sex (especially anal) and they can cause little tears in the latex that people relying on condoms need to avoid for pretty obvious reasons.

If you already have some oil-based lube in the house, reserve it for jerking off. Yeah, it can get sticky and messy, but it feels pretty good. Other than that, the only people I can think of who should use oil-based lubes are those who have allergies to the ingredients in other types of lube.

Generally, I’d say spend your money on a different option.

Now that we’ve gotten through some of the lube basics, we can take a closer look at some of the best lubes.

Cassie and I are adventurous and we like to try new things. I couldn’t even guess how many different brands we’ve used over the years. When it comes to coming, I have a pretty deep knowledge of what products help most.

Use my experience to help you choose a lube that will work for your sex life.

(And hey, I tried to make this look real professional with some pics of wet women, did you notice? Of course you did. :) Did I do a good job there?)

Three of the Best Water-based Lubes We’ve Tried

There are a ton of water-based lubes on today’s market. It’s okay if you find it confusing. There are just so many different products that people have a hard time deciding which ones they should buy.

Over the years, I’ve come to rely on certain water-based lubes. When I’m buying, I automatically turn to these because they offer reliable performance. Of course, I occasionally buy something different or new, too. If I weren’t willing to take some risks, I could miss out on awesome new products that work great.

Here, I’d like to direct you to my three favorite water-based lubes. I’ve done the shopping around and research. You don’t have to waste your time and money on lubes that only give you so-so performance. If you stick to these three lubes, you will not have any complaint.

Lulu

Lulu is one of my favorite lubes of all time. I’m a big fan or water-based lubes in general, but this one stands out to me because it’s so easy and effective.

>> Click here to see more reviews plus today’s lowest price <<

Some of the things I like most about Lulu:

  • It doesn’t contain any glycerin
  • It’s really slippery, which is what you want from lube
  • It has a thick consistency that makes it easy to apply to toys
  • It outlasts every water-based lube I’ve ever used, which makes it perfect for anal

Although this is one of my favorites, I do have some mild complaints about Lulu. You should know about them before you buy. These minor problems might not mean anything to you. Then again, they could be deal breakers. Either way, here are some of the things that I dislike about Maximus:

  • It contains parabens, which doesn’t matter much to me and Cassie but some people are sensitive to them
  • It’s just a little on the pricey side, especially for buyers in Canada and the U.S. since it’s imported from England
  • It can leave a bitter taste in your mouth. People disagree about this, though. Cassie thinks it tastes really sweet and she likes using it during blowjobs. When I kiss her after the blowjob, though, I think it tastes terribly bitter.

Sliquid H2O

Sliquid H2O is a water-based lube made for discerning people who care about what they put in their bodies. It’s a completely vegan, natural lube. If you avoid animal products, then you can use this lube without feeling guilty.

>> Click here to see more reviews plus today’s lowest price <<

Other things that Cassie and I like about Sliquid H20 include:

  • The way it mixes well with her body’s natural lubrication
  • The natural ingredients that don’t include any lab-made chemicals
  • It doesn’t have a taste or smell
  • It’s really easy to clean up when you’re done

The only problem Cassie and I have with Sliquid H20 is that it doesn’t actually last all that long (all natural is good but typically don’t last as long as those lubes with at least some specialized ingredients), and it doesn’t work very well for anal penetration. It’s fine for small butt plugs and glass dildos, but it’s not the best option for full anal penetration. It’s a good product, but it isn’t slick enough or long-lasting enough for all that.

Sliquid makes a whole line of lubes, including flavored lubes that taste really good. Some of Sliquid’s lubes are silicone-based, though. If you want water-based, stick to the H2O version.

I can’t recommend this lube enough. I always say that Lulu is my favorite, but this is a close second.

Astroglide

I often find that big companies that make lube pour more money into marketing than product development. I was hesitant to try Astroglide. In my experience, things that are really popular aren’t usually the things that should be really popular.

Astroglide works, though, and it’s easy to find even if you don’t live in a big city. If you need to buy lube immediately, you can find this at most drug stores and big box retailers. It’s probably the best option that they have on the shelf.

>> Click here to see more reviews plus today’s lowest price <<

Realistically, the average person isn’t going to see a big difference between Astroglide and the water-based lubes that Cassie and I prefer. It’s inexpensive and it works fine.

That said, I think convenience is the best thing about Astroglide.

The average person may not feel the difference, but that’s because the average person has only used lubes available at nearby drug stores. When you read reviews of this product online, you can really tell who knows what they’re talking about.

People who have used lubes like Maximus complain that Astroglide doesn’t last long enough or that it isn’t slick enough for anal. People who have only used K-Y Jelly, however, think that Astroglide is the shit. Compared to K-Y, I agree. Astroglide is pretty damn good.

If you are an average person looking for a lube that will get the job done, you’ll like Astroglide.

If you want a heightened sexual experience, I suggest trying other water-based lubes like Maximus and Sliquid H2O.

More Water-based Lubes

It seems like companies keep making new water-based lubes designed to meet specific sexual needs. I’m happy to see this revolution taking place. Right now, I use Maximus almost exclusively when I’m masturbating. When Cassie and I are having vaginal sex, we usually go with Sliquid H20 because she prefers it.

Maximus is the only water-based lube that we use for anal. Your experiences may vary according to your body and your partner’s body. For my money, I would stick to one of these two options.

If you need lube immediately, run to the store and grab some Astroglide. It’s probably the best water-based lube that you can buy at your local drug store.

The Three Silicone-based Lubes We Like Most

I’m a water-based lube kind of guy, but some people prefer silicone-based lubes. I get it. Silicone is extremely slippery and it lasts a long time. If you’re going for marathon sex, silicone-based lube will not let you down. In my experience, silicone-based lubes are also best for anal penetration. Of course, that depends on the brand you buy.

I find that silicone-based lubes are more likely to contain unwanted chemicals than their water-based versions. This concerns Cassie more than it concerns me. Of course, since she’s my partner, I listen and care about what she thinks. After all, the lube is going into her body. It’s usually just going on the outside of mine.

I don’t want to give the impression that silicone-based lubes are bad. They aren’t. Most people who use them find the experience very pleasurable. They’re also some of the best options for anal sex and having sex in water. It’s just that some people have other preferences, and that’s completely fine. You’re the only one who gets to decide what goes in or on your body.

If you want to give silicone-based lubes a try, I suggest these three products. They have never let me down.

Überlube

Überlube markets itself as a luxury lubricant. That’s a spot on analysis. This lube lasts forever no matter what you do with it.

Going anal tonight? Überlube will keep pace so that you don’t have to deal with reapplications. Sticking to the regular routine? Überlube is a tried and true product that will let you get off without any chaffing. Going solo? Überlube will slick you up quickly and stay with you until you finish.

>> Click here to see more reviews plus today’s lowest price <<

Überlube, unlike a lot of silicone-based lubes that I’ve tried, is really easy to clean up. I don’t recommend getting it on your sheets. It could still stain if you don’t clean it up immediately. It doesn’t, however, make a big mess like a lot of lubes. Yes, it’s kind of a pain to get out of cotton sheets, but everything is. When it comes to wiping it off your body, it doesn’t resist at all.

The bottom line is that you won’t feel like you need to take a shower immediately after sex. You can just wipe off Überlube and go to sleep. Or get ready for the next round. I guess it depends on how early you need to get up the next morning.

As a high-end product, you can expect to spend more money on Überlube than most silicone-based lubes. We have a travel set of Überlube that came with two refills. If I remember right, it was about $30. I think that’s a little pricey for the product, but not outrageously so. If Überlube works for you, go ahead and spend a little extra cash on it. It will add significantly to your sex life.

Gun Oil

A lot of women find the Gun Oil’s packaging a little off-putting. It’s clearly designed for gay and bi guys to use during anal sex. But that’s all just marketing. The actual product itself is great for all kinds of sex. I suggest getting over the package and focusing on the what the product can do for your love life. I think you’ll enjoy it.

>> Click here to see more reviews plus today’s lowest price <<

Some of the reasons I like gun oil include:

  • It’s unscented
  • It’s hypoallergenic, which is good for people with sensitive skin
  • The silicone really does last a long time, so you don’t have to stop mid-hump to reapply
  • It doesn’t contain any glycerin
  • It doesn’t hurt latex toys or condoms
  • It includes a bunch of botanical ingredients that sooth the skin, which is important for recovery
  • It doesn’t contain any parabens

That’s a pretty long list of positive reasons to buy Gun Oil.

I can’t think of any reasons that you should avoid Gun Oil. I guess some people might have reactions to the botanical ingredients. You should probably rub some on your skin to make sure you aren’t allergic to any of them. Other than that, this is a top-notch product that’s perfect for masturbation, toys, vaginal, and anal.

Pink

Pink is another silicone-based lube marketed as high-end. Like Überlube, it has several qualities that make the label appropriate.

>> Click here to see more reviews plus today’s lowest price <<

I think most people buy Pink because it:

  • Has moisturizers like aloe and vitamin E
  • The silicone stays slippery for long sex and water sex
  • It definitely feel smoother than cheaper brands

Personally, I like Pink because it makes women feel comfortable. In this respect, it’s the opposite of Gun Oil. I think it’s a little silly to get hung up on packaging, but I don’t think it’s silly to buy a product because it gets you laid more.

Pink has pleasant, feminine packaging. If you’ve led a pretty vanilla sex life up until now, but you want to introduce toys or anal play, I think Pink could make your partner a little more comfortable with your desires.

Pink is a little harder to clean up than Überlube. I’m not sure why that it is, but that has been my experience. It’s not a big deal to me, but I usually feel like taking a shower after using it. If nothing else, I’ll use a wet cloth instead of just a tissue when cleaning up. That minor inconvenience is worth the fun that you’ll have.

More on Silicone-based Lubes

Silicone-based lubes are popular in drug stores, but you won’t find many of the high-end options there.

If you’re going to add some adventure to your sex life, it makes sense to invest in a really good lube that will make the experience more pleasurable. Find an option that works for you and your partner, and have a blast!

I’ve met people who wished they had bought better lube. I’ve never heard anyone complain that a lube was too good.

Going Anal? You’re Gonna Need the Right Lube

A lot of people avoid anal sex because they’ve had bad experiences in the past. If you tried anal as a teenager, you were probably too dumb to do it right. Now you have this idea that butt stuff is painful or gross.

As fun as anal play is, there are some questions you have to deal with before you start. You can’t just shove your dick in someone’s butt. That part of the body doesn’t really work that way. Unlike vaginas, butts aren’t self-lubricating. If you’re going to brown town, you’re going to need lube. And you’re going to need plenty of it.

I really don’t want to think about what people used before they could buy slick lubes specially formulated for anal penetration.

Best Water-based Lubes for Anal

In general, water-based lubes are not the best option for anal penetration. Your average water-based lube may work for small toys, but they are not necessarily going to make full penetration comfortable for everyone. Even if you find a lube that makes helps you get your dick in there, chances are that it will wear off quickly either through evaporation or body absorption.

That means you will have to reapply, which, let’s be honest here, is not the type of thing that usually makes anal more exciting. Although, as I said above, it can be decent to get the opportunity to slow down for a minute. Plus, I guess some people will just always prefer water of silicone.

If you are going to try a water-based lube during anal intercourse, I think Maximus is the way to go.

I’ve used it and enjoyed it on the both the giving and receiving ends. If Cassie wants to put a toy in me, I want Maximus to lubricate that toy. I wouldn’t trust any other water-based lube to do the job. Maybe I’m particular, but that’s my experience.

Best Silicone-based Lubes for Anal

Silicone-based lubes are a whole other story. Any number of silicone lubes can make anal play exceptionally more fun and enjoyable. The human body doesn’t absorb silicone like it does water, so you don’t have to worry about reapply lube during anal sex unless you’re going for some kind of record.

That said, some silicone-based lubes are better than others when it comes to anal penetration. If you’ve had a bad experience with anal sex, I’ll guarantee it was because you didn’t lube properly. Don’t ruin anal play for yourself. Get a good lube that’s made for anal sex. And use a ton of it.

The silicone-lubes I like for vaginal sex also work well for anal. Some people like to keep their lubes separate, though. I guess it makes them feel that anal is more of a special occasion. If you prefer using a different lube for anal sex, I’d recommend one of the following options.

Pjur Back Door

Pjur Back Door is considered one of the best brands for anal sex. Come on, it’s right there in the name. It has a thick consistency that makes it easy to apply and ensures that it doesn’t run thin so you have to stop before you climax.

>> Click here to see more reviews plus today’s lowest price <<

Back Door also contains an ingredient that’s supposed to be an anal relaxant. I’ve never actually used Back Door on my ass, but I’ve used it with Cassie. She couldn’t really say whether it helped her relax or not, but she wasn’t willing to rule out the possibility.

Cassie’s really comfortable and relaxed when it comes to this type of sex anyway, so maybe it works best on people who are inexperienced or a little uptight about going anal.

Pjur also includes a small amount of nutmeg in Back Door. Nutmeg is supposed to ease discomfort. Using numbing agents is usually a bad idea when having anal sex. If things get numb, it’s easier to get hurt without even knowing it until you regain full sensitivity. The nutmeg, however, is similar to the relaxant. Cassie said she didn’t feel any numbness.

The key to preventing pain during anal is taking it slow and keeping things lubed up. The nutmeg doesn’t seem to hurt anything, but I can’t imagine that it helps that much.

Those considerations aside, I still think that Back Door is the best option for most people who want to have anal sex. It’s nice and thick; it lasts forever; and it’s pretty easy to clean. That’s basically what you want from an anal lube.

Anal Glide

Again, it’s true purpose is right there in the name. This time, it’s even more explicit!

>> Click here to see more reviews plus today’s lowest price <<

I’d buy this for the name alone, but I wouldn’t use it unless it really worked. Glide is very similar to Pjur Back Door. They both include anal relaxants and silicone, and they both offer a fun experience that lasts a long time.

Anal Glide has a thinner consistency than Back Door. That can make it a little harder to apply. It might also reduce your bang time, but only by a little. I’ve never noticed a significant difference in how long Glide and Back Door last.

The thing that makes Glide potentially more useful than Back Door is that it has a pump dispenser that you can use with one hand. That may sound like a minor benefit, but it’s a pretty big deal when you’re in the middle of sex or even when you’re trying to have some good alone time.

Anal Glide is a little easier to clean up than Back Door, too. That’s probably because it has a thinner consistency. Neither lube will give you any problems. This one’s just a tiny bit easier.

More on Silicone-based Lubes for Anal

I hate repeating myself, but I think it’s important for people to know that lube is the key to enjoyable anal sex.

If you choose the wrong lube, there’s a good chance that someone will feel uncomfortable. Don’t let that happen. No matter what lube you choose, communicate with your partner during anal sex. Communicating means more than yelling about how good it feels.

Check in with your partner to make sure she or he is having a good time and not experiencing any discomfort that will make anal less likely in the future.

Specialty Lubes for Special Evenings

A special evening calls for a special lube. Lubes are primarily about reducing friction, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have some extra fun with them. Specialty lubes include flavored, numbing, warming, and organic products. These have become increasingly popular over the years. I recommend browsing the available options with your partner. I bet one of them will arouse your interest.

Flavored Lubes

Flavored lubes are fun for any oral activity. If you want a deeper blowjob, flavored lubes can make it an easier, more enjoyable experience for both people involved.

These lubes come in all kinds of flavors. While they vary from brand to brand, you can expect to find flavors such as:

Don’t expect them to taste like real fruit. They usually taste more like candy versions of fruit.

I’ve never seen a flavored lube that contains sugar. If you run across such a thing, avoid it. You might think that you’ve used up the lube while giving head, but it can stay on the penis. That becomes a bit of a problem when you switch from head to intercourse. No woman wants sugar in her pussy.

Check out more flavored lubes here.

Numbing Lubes

Numbing lubes are for when you want to go all night. Men who have trouble with premature ejaculation can also use it to prolong sex and make sure that their partners get off before they do.

I don’t really use numbing lubes, but I can see how they come in handy for some people. If you choose to use a numbing lube, you should follow some precautions.

First, make sure that you only put the lube on your dick. Second, make sure you put a condom on after applying the lube.

The point of numbing lube is to slow the guy down. If you put it on your dick and then have sex, it’s going to get transferred to your partner. That’s bad news for several reasons. Most obviously, it will dull your partner’s enjoyment. Most importantly, it can dull your partner’s sensitivity, which makes it all too easy for regular sex to unintentionally turn into rough sex.

I would avoid numbing lube for anal play. There’s too much risk that a numb ass will get hurt.

Check out some numbing lubes here.

Warming Lubes

Some people enjoy warming lubes on special occasions. If you’ve ever had cold lube slathered on your sensitive bits, then you can easily understand why warming lubes have become popular.

Warming lubes, however, can contain ingredients that cause me some concern. Nearly all of them contain glycerol. That’s a fancy name for a kind of alcohol that has a thick consistency. When exposed to your body, it will warm up. That’s a pleasant experience as long as you’re fine with using lube that contains a lot of glycerol.

Some companies put capsaicin in their warming lubes. I don’t recommend these. Capsaicin is the chemical that makes peppers taste so hot. If you or your partner are sensitive to peppers, then you could have a negative experience with these lubes.

My advice is to check the ingredients before buying any warming lubes. If you feel uncomfortable with something in the lube, don’t buy it. If you’re perfectly fine with it, buy and have fun.

Check out the best warming lubes.

Organic Lubes

Organic lubes don’t contain any lab-made chemicals. If you have an allergy to the chemicals typically used in water-based and silicone-based lubes, then organic lubes can make your night special without unwanted side effects.

Remember that “organic” doesn’t always mean “safe” or “healthy.” Organic lubes usually contain oils that will break down condoms and latex toys. If you need to wear a condom, check the label to make sure your lube is compatible.

Most companies that make organic lube know that they’re selling to a niche market, so they spend a lot of time developing healthy formulas that contain natural moisturizers like aloe. I think that’s a great way to improve the overall quality of sex products.

If you’re the type of person who only eats organic foods, then you should look into organic lubes, too. Some of my favorite organic lubes include:

Start your search with these three. You’ll probably like at least one of them.

Specialty lubes are a fun way to enjoy the evening. Since some of them are made for specific activities, you should always read the labels. Really, that level of precaution should be obvious. It’s not a great idea to put something in your body unless you know what it is.

Spermicidal Lubes Probably Don’t Do What You Think They Should

The thing about spermicidal lubricants is that they don’t protect very well from pregnancy.

They only stop something like 15% of pregnancies.

When it comes to preventing pregnancy, you can just forget about relying on these lubes, although they could offer a little extra protection if you’re using a condom.

Realistically, I think you’re better off just using a condom and trying a silicone or water-based lube. Cassie agrees. She just kind of laughed when we looked into spermicidal options. She even joked that maybe spermicidal lubes were only good for anal play. Now, I don’t know what the point of that would be, but if it toots your horn go ahead and enjoy it. I’ve never heard of anyone getting pregnant through anal sex.

We’re not particularly worried about getting pregnant, so we don’t use spermicidal lubricants. Of course, that doesn’t necessarily mean you should avoid them. They do the same job as other lubes (you know, they make it easier to put one thing into another thing) and they may give you a little peace of mind. If that’s what you want, by all means try out some spermicidal lubes. It’s not like they’re going to hurt anything. I mean, it’s not like your dick is going to fall off or something.

At the same time, Cassie and I think it’s really important for people to know about the limitations of spermicidal lubes. Who knows how many people have bought this stuff because they think it can replace condoms.

I worry a bit that some people may put themselves in danger because they don’t understand how these products work. Keep in mind that they are not good at stopping pregnancy and they most definitely do not protect you or your partner from STDs.

If you think that sounds stupid, then you may want to reconsider. Apparently the scientists who created spermicide originally thought that it would kill common STDs. They figured that, hey, it kills sperm, so maybe it will kill viruses, too. They were only partially right about the killing sperm part (I’ll say it again – do not rely on spermicidal lube as a contraceptive), but they were dead wrong about viruses. It turns out that spermicide does absolutely nothing to stop them.

Of course, these protections don’t matter to everyone. If you’re in a committed relationship and you aren’t worried about pregnancy, I don’t see a reason that you shouldn’t use spermicidal lubes. I’ve used them with my wife and on my own. They get the job done. Just don’t expect them to do more than they can. You’ll be disappointed when you get a burning sensation or your girlfriend comes to you with a plastic stick she peed on.

There, I’ve said my bit about spermicidal lubes. Now you know my position on the matter. If you already have a bottle in your bedside drawer, keep using it. If you don’t already have some, you can choose better products.

Where to Buy Lube

Just a couple decades ago, you had to go to a sex shop to find a good lube. Those days are over, and I couldn’t be happier. Today, you can find lube in practically any drug store. Hell, you can find decent lubes at the grocery store. No, I’m not talking about coconut oil. I’m talking about real, honest lubes designed for sexual pleasure.

You won’t find a lot of variety at your local drug store, but I’m glad the option exists now. Of course, some people will feel a bit timid buying lube at their neighborhood store. Hopefully the store you shop at has self-checkout lanes so you can avoid some embarrassment.

Like I said, I’m really happy that people can buy personal lubricants at local stores now without having to visit sex shops. I, however, don’t buy lubes at the store. I don’t feel self-conscious about buying them. I just prefer a wider selection (and a cheaper rate) that those stores don’t offer.

I think it’s a bad idea to use “any old lube” that you find at the store. The lube that you use should match your preferences and sexual activities. The lube that works great for you right now might not even be the one that you buy next year. All kinds of things can change your opinion and preference. If you’re becoming a little more adventurous, then you might need a thicker lube that’s made for anal play. If you get a new sex partner, then you may need to find a new lube that matches his or her preferences, too.

These are just a few reasons why I always buy lube online. There are a ton of reliable retailers with huge selections, but the two I use are:

Amazon obviously has low prices and a TON of selection. Fleshlight I like to use sometimes just because the lube is specifically made for their products. 90% of the time I’m buying from Amazon, but if I don’t have any and I’m ordering a new Fleshlight, I’ll add a bottle to my order.

Sometimes you can also buy lubes directly from the companies that make them. A lot of companies, however, prefer to sell their products through large retailers. I guess it makes sense from a business perspective.

When buying lube online, follow the same guidelines that you use when purchasing other products.

  • Compare prices to make sure you don’t spend more money than necessary, and be sure to include shipping costs during your comparison.
  • Only buy from online retailers that you trust.
  • Read a few reviews to make sure you’re getting a reliable product from a store that won’t try to rip you off.

Personal lubricants have entered mainstream culture. It’s an exciting time to explore your sexual fantasies without putting yourself or your partners in any danger. I’m obviously a big fan of lubes. I think it’s important for all sexually active people to know their options so they can choose a lube that makes sex more enjoyable.

With so many lubes and so many places to buy them, you can easily add some spice to your sex life.