8 Signs You’re Being Too Emotionally Needy in Your Relationship

February 14, 2019 Relationships
man with emotionally needy woman

Love is beautiful, but too much love can destroy a relationship.

When trying to attract a new partner, playing hard to get is usually the best strategy. If you’re always available to hang out with this new person, then it may seem like you don’t have much going on in your life.

A lack of availability means you’re busy living a life filled with friends, work, and hobbies.

After you’ve managed to attract a person of value, you no longer have to play hard to get. However, this doesn’t mean you should then devout everything in your life to your new partner.

Coming across as “needy” can ruin a relationship.

If you’re worried about how your partner has been treating you lately, the problems could be your own. 

Are you being too emotionally needy in your relationships? It isn’t healthy to be clingy. Read on to learn the 8 signs you’re being too needy.

1. Your Partner Is Not Reciprocating

Healthy relationships are all about give and take. This emotional and physical exchange should be equal. If you find that you are demanding a lot more out of your partner than they are of you, you might be too needy.

Whether it’s intimacy or simply just spending quality time together, you and your partner should be on the same page. If you find yourself touching them and they’re never touching you back, there is a problem.

Be open and upfront about your physical and emotional needs. Through conversation, you can figure out what you’re both comfortable with.

2. You Don’t Know What to Do Without Your Partner

You’re with your partner because you love them and you love doing things together. You’re like two halves of a whole. But if they’re away on a trip and you’re alone, you should still be able to function. 

When your partner is away and you can’t do simple things like grocery shopping, you have an issue. Losing your independence can be a major side effect of neediness in a relationship.

To keep your partner attracted to you try to always be Mister or Miss Independent.  

3. You “Like” Them Too Much on Social Media

Partners in healthy relationships should support each other on all fronts. That includes liking and sharing their social media output.

However, too many likes and too many posts can become overwhelming. 

Don’t get addicted to your partner’s social media presence. Most of your relationship should be personal, there’s no need to broadcast it all across the web. A “like” can become an obsession very quickly.  

4. You Get Jealous Frequently

In some circumstances, you should have your guard up over how your partner interacts with others. If you find them being flirty and mysterious with someone else then they may be cheating on you

However, in most healthy relationships, people don’t worry about infidelity. If you find yourself being jealous of all your parter’s interactions then you’re being too needy.

Trust is the key to real, authentic love between two people. Without trust, your relationship will fail. 

5. You Don’t Have Other Friends In Your Life

Your partner should be the most important person in your life. But they should not be the only person in your life. It’s healthy and necessary to have friendships outside of your relationship. 

If you wake up one day and realize that you’ve lost all your friends, then you’ve been way too needy in your relationship. A well-balanced person can make time for their partner and their friends. 

Absence does make the heart grow fonder. Go hang out with your friends. Your partner will appreciate the time you spend away from them and love you more when you get home.

6. You Often Make Big Romantic Gestures

Flowers after a long day of work is nice. Cooking your partner their favorite meal can be special too. But, you can go overboard with romantic gestures.

You want to show your person how much you love them. That doesn’t mean you have to go to great lengths to show it. Spending lots of money on your partner will make it seem like you’re trying to buy their affections, not earn them.

It can also mean that you’re afraid that who you are as a person isn’t enough for them. The gifts are your way of overcompensating for what you think you lack emotionally.

Once in a while, it’s okay to splurge on a gift for a special occasion. But if every day is like Christmas your relationship will not feel sincere. Love should grow from what’s in your heart, not in your wallet.

7. You Don’t Have Any Of Your Own Opinions

Most likely you’re with your partner because you agree on a lot of the same things. It’s healthy to be with someone you have a lot in common with. But if you’ve found yourself parroting every opinion your partner has, you are being too needy.

This could come from a place of fear. You might be worried that if you disagree with them that they won’t like you as much.

Actually, it can be fun and flirty to have a debate with your partner. When you have your own identity and opinions that will make you more attractive to them.

If your partner doesn’t appreciate your unique voice, then you shouldn’t be together in the first place!

8. You’re Lonely

It may sound like it’s impossible to be lonely when you have a partner. But this is something that a lot of people deal with. Being lonely has nothing to do with how your partner treats you.

It’s about you being unfulfilled in your own life.

When you’re lonely you’ll rely on your partner to fill this void. Putting this sort of burden on another person will make you become clingy. 

Are You Emotionally Needy?

If you can relate to any of these behaviors, then you might be too emotionally needy in your relationship. Take a step back and alter your behavior before you push your loved one away.

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