How to Keep the Passion Alive Once the Honeymoon Phase is Over

February 28, 2019 Relationships
honeymoon phase

Are you recently hitched?

If so, congratulations! Getting married is a huge step in life, and taking it requires a lot of courage and dedication to someone else.

But here’s the thing: marriage is hard. In fact, it’s so hard that there are 100 divorces an hour

But you and your boo don’t have to become part of that statistic. In fact, even though the honeymoon phase is over, it doesn’t mean you can’t keep falling in love.

It’s going to take some work though. But lucky for you, this article is going to tell you everything you need to know about keeping the passion alive.

Read on to learn more!

Let Yourself Get Annoyed

It might sound silly, but one of the most important things you have to do after the honeymoon phase is to let your partner annoy you.

During the first few months of your relationship, everything they do is perfect. They can do no wrong.

But eventually, the sound of them brushing their teeth annoys you. And is that a new laugh? And oh. my. gosh. who is he around his friends?

You get annoyed by the little things that don’t make sense to you. You might even start to feel like you don’t know them as well as you thought you did.

If you feel this way, take some time to evaluate the situation. Odds are you aren’t going to know everything about your partner, and that’s a good thing. You want to get to know them.

But if they are a completely different person around other people, you might want to ask them about it. Potentially, they may just feel more comfortable around you than other people.

Embrace It

Often people get annoyed when they don’t know the other person as well as they thought they did. Instead of getting annoyed by these new discoveries, try to embrace them.

And if there is something odd about them that just annoys you, don’t try to change them. It will annoy you, but they’re their own person.

Something you do probably annoy them as well. Try to embrace this as you would like them to embrace your oddness. 

Get Some Space

During the honeymoon stage, you want to spend every second with your new person. Each second is new and exciting, but after a few months of dating, chances are it’s going to get a little dry.

And if you’re not experiencing life outside of your significant other, you might start feeling like you don’t have any other friends. If you feel yourself longing to hang out with other people, this doesn’t mean you dislike your significant other.

Instead, try to get some space. Go have lives outside of each other and learn new things without the other person. Read different books or watch different shows even.

Why?

Think about what you talked about when you first started dating. You both talked about yourself and the ideas you had. It was fascinating trying to get to know the other.

Having separate lives makes it easier to have those same discovery conversations again. It lets you and your partner both continue to grow instead of expecting all your happiness to come from the other. 

You cannot have a life together if you do not have a life away from the other.

Plus, nothing helps you realize how much you love someone by missing them.

Spice It Up

Spicing it up can deal with sex, but guess what: that’s not all. Instead of focusing on how to improve your bedroom time alone, let’s also talk about routine and emotional spiciness.

Routine

Do you and your boo have a favorite restaurant?

Maybe you go to that same restaurant every Thursday. At first, it was a cute thing you all did.

But 6 months of going to the same restaurant will drive anyone crazy. You have to do something different. 

For the restaurant example, you don’t need to break the Thursday night tradition. Just try a new restaurant or make something at home.

Breaking routine will add a bit of freshness to your relationship, and it will be good for you all to experience new things together.

Emotional

Showing that you love someone can be hard. And if you found a great way to do it at the beginning of your relationship, it might be scary to try to try a new way.

But hearing the same words or receiving the same gift over time dilutes the power of that affection. Try to find new ways to show your love to your person.

Instead of whispering sweet nothings, write them a letter. You could even put in the mail for extra fun!

Sexual

Getting spicy in the bedroom is one of the better ways to rekindle the romance in your relationship. The same kind of sex over time can get really boring. 

You might even be able to tell that your significant other isn’t enjoying the sex you’re having. If that’s the case, you have some serious work to do.

Consider looking up a different way to enjoy intimacy together. And remember that kissing and cuddling doesn’t have to turn into sex.

Gratitude Rituals

Sometimes it can be quite easy to start taking your partner for granted. After a few months of dating, you might feel like they’re just another part of your life.

For some, this is fine, but for others, this can make them feel quite unloved. Find a way to let your partner know that you still care.

Consider writing a letter on a regular basis or sending them flowers. Whatever it is, show them that you care on a consistent basis.

Who Needs the Honeymoon Phase?

After reading this article, we hope you’ve realized you don’t even need the honeymoon phase. With a few of these tips, you can keep the passion alive for years to come.

Want to keep it spicy in the bedroom too? Take our quiz to find out if you’re ready to use a sex toy with your partner.