What Makes a Good Relationship?: 5 Things to Look For

August 23, 2018 Relationships
what makes a good relationship

In the United States, about 40 to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce.

Reasons include financial struggles, cheating, and sheer boredom. Whatever the reason, broken heart syndrome is common. Knowing what makes a good relationship can help you make sure yours stays on track.

Read on for the 5 things to look for in a good relationship.

1. Trust is Everything

Everybody says this.

But it’s so very true. A relationship without trust is a relationship that might as well be over.

If you can’t trust, you won’t be able to share your emotions. It’s also difficult to love someone you don’t trust.

Sex always requires a significant amount of trust. If you don’t have it, you won’t be able to do anything different. Some vanilla types of sex may be possible, but neither partner would want to engage in BDSM without trust.

A lack of trust also leads to arguments. Accusing your partner of cheating on a regular basis is not fair to them. It can also give you unnecessary stress.

What to do if you can’t trust your partner

If you can’t trust your partner, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship. As it is the most important part of a relationship, working on this takes patience

Sometimes a lack of trust may have roots in your own experiences. If someone cheated you before, you may not be able to trust as well.

Communicate these trust issues to your partner. And make sure they communicate their misgivings as well.

But, you may also find that you can’t trust your partner because of their past mistakes. Whether this past was with you or someone else, you should communicate these worries as well.

If you’ve promised to forgive them but haven’t, you should continue to try. But a consistent liar is not someone you should be dating anymore.

2. Playfulness is Fun … and Important

Being playful with your partner is something to look for in a healthy relationship. A couple that can’t take a joke from the other won’t last.

Playfulness also means that the couple is having fun. Having fun isn’t always the end goal of a good relationship, but it’s a vital aspect.

Being silly with your partner will make you feel connected. There’s nothing like getting strange glances in public after playing tag.

Games can be simple or unplanned, and try putting twists on them too. Bring your imagination along to make sure it’s fun.

If you’re both very competitive, avoid games with a loser. Stick to acting funny or playing games that put you on the same team.

Some ways you can play with your love:

  • Twenty Questions
  • Naked Hide and Seek (Yes, for real.)
  • Happy Couple
  • Play wrestling (Warning! This gets steamy fast!)
  • Sexy Twister
  • Truth or Dare
  • Tag

Being your partner’s best friend takes time and trust. Nobody wants a boring best friend, so make sure that you’re always trying to be fun.

3. Get away from Each Other

Sometimes people need space. If you date an introvert, they might even need it every day.

Couples who spend all their time together do love each other. But, at some point, you’ll get sick of seeing the same exact person every day.

Find a night to go out with your friends alone. Pick up a new hobby, or go visit your family.

Giving each other space will help you be happier to see your person. If you miss them, that’s a good sign your relationship is healthy.

To take care of yourself, you have to spend time talking to other people. It’s easy to become so caught up in a relationship and forget your own personality.

Relying on one person alone for your emotional happiness can be dangerous over time. Even if the relationship doesn’t end, you may lose your confidence.

Spending less time with your significant other may seem weird. But sometimes it’s the best way to care for your relationship.

4. Turn Up the Heat

Affection is one of the most important parts of a relationship. While sex is part of this, it’s not the end game.

Doing the bare minimum of holding your love’s hand can mean a lot to a physical person. Cuddle when you watch a movie, and non-sexual kisses should be frequent action in your all’s lives. Don’t confuse yourself here though. Having sex is important too.

A 40-year study of Americans found that couples who have sex once a week are the happiest. But it doesn’t have to stop there, and it definitely doesn’t have to be boring.

Don’t focus too much on the big finish and have fun with the foreplay. Try reading erotica together or use toys to spice things up.

You don’t have to be too crazy if you don’t want to be. Some people prefer to be kinky, while others may want nothing more than some new games.

In other words, you don’t have to bring out the leather boots. But please, for the love of God, don’t stop at the missionary position.

5. Accept Each Other

A good relationship also means that you two accept each other. While it can be easy to focus on similarities, differences are important too.

Your partner might be more emotional than you. Don’t become impatient. Instead, accept their sensitivities and validate their emotions.

The same goes for hobbies. Take an interest in their sports, books, crafts, or video games. You don’t have to be good at anything they do. Your desire to understand will make them feel loved.

If you begin to dislike your partner, ask if it’s because they are doing something wrong. If not, it may be that you need to reaccept who they are.

Couples often reveal themselves more as time passes. This means you will find out things about your partner years after you meet them.

Be ready to accept that. If you love them, you will.

Does Your Relationship Need Help?

What makes a good relationship isn’t cut and dry. But if you try, you and your honey can last as long as you all want.

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